…before your wedding day (or things they did tell you, but you refused to believe)
It’s been quite a while! Finally the wedding is all done and over with, and the thank you cards are written and ready to be sent out.
Today I wanted to share some things that I wish people told you BEFORE your wedding day.
Get a special hanger for your dress. You’ve seen those adorable hangers that say BRIDE with wire lettering. No? Well, for example, GetHungUp on Etsy is one seller of many that have wire lettered hangers for your wedding day:
Mine would have said Mrs.Kim, had I not forgotten this detail on my own day. Consequently, my wedding dress pictures are pretty but not quite as pretty as they could be.
Oh and before we go any further, all of my gorgeous wedding photos were taken by Anha Nguyen, whom I highly recommend! Couldn’t have had my day without her.
Don’t be shy about getting dressed and undressed on your big day. There’s bigger things to worry about than a room full of your bridesmaids AND your photographer watching you get into your wedding dress.
If you do fret yourself about it….you’ll end up trying to take off your sweats AFTER you’ve put on your dress and it’ll take 4 girls to help you get it off. It’s far less painful and uncomfortable to just get into your dress without giving a damn who’s watching. Just saying.
And if you have a corset/lace-up style dress, someone will have to dress you and it’ll be up close and personal:
Prime example…my bridesmaid shoving the tied ends of my laces into my butt. Almost felt violated when they had to reach UNDER the dress to make the laces lie flat inside the dress!
You can’t tell in this candid photo that one of my friends took of my first dance…but that reception dress was a nightmare. A beautiful nightmare.
There are several lessons to be learned from this dress:
The first is that sheer, almost nude panties–like lacy, pinkish nude–are not nude panties. Almost nude panties are not as invisible as fully nude colored panties.
Which brings me to my second point: try your dress on in full sun. Don’t try your dress in a sunny spot inside of your house…Actually BE in bright, full on sunlight in your dress to test its transparency.
Unfortunately for me, I had not done that prior to the wedding, so when I was hit with the full power of the sun in the third floor of the glass covered yacht…well, it was like X-ray vision. After moments of panic, frantic efforts to shove white toilet paper under my dress to cover my almost nude panties, and yells at my poor groom to LEAVE ME ALONE (because he kept saying that we had to go down to announce lunch time), my mom came through with some nude panty hose which miraculously fixed the problem.
The third lesson to learn is that, when people tell you that you’ll lose weight during those final days before your wedding, you really will. Believe it. You’ll stress out so much that a dress that fit just perfectly 3 days ago will somehow be a size too large on the day of. My beautiful Sue Wong dress was beaded, embroidered and figure flattering…but had to be constantly lifted up throughout the reception to keep from slipping off of me. Despite the Bombshell multiway (Victoria’s Secret!) bra that added 2 cup sizes which I had worn just for this strapless dress, my dress would not stay up on its own.
The final lesson that ties all of these points together is that something will absolutely go wrong on your wedding day–guaranteed. I’m not saying that your venue will burn down or your veil will tear or someone will get hurt….no, no.
But you will most definitely have at least one crisis or problem. Brace yourself and just breathe. If you have a good coordinator and mom on that day, like I did, you’ll make it through.
The beautiful cake that you paid for (and in fact, most of the food you paid for) will be eaten by everyone else but you and your groom or bride. Yep. We’d never bought so much food/spent so much money on food and been so hungry as we were on our wedding day. It’s not just that you won’t have time to eat…you just won’t feel like eating because of the nerves and the stress of pulling off your whole day. Also, you’ll spend most of your lunch or dinner time taking pictures with every single table.
PS, the cake was done by Cinderella Cakes, and the cake topper was custom made by Travis and Laura of Etsy’s Adaura…$15 plus shipping. The cake flowers were created custom for me by MissErikas of Etsy’s AllAmericanElegance…$29.97 for 10 gum paste flowers plus shipping.
Thank you sellers for creating and delivering my orders carefully, quickly and beautifully (:
And last but not least for today:
<–This picture on the right has a little sneak peak of my baby’s breath bouquet hiding to the right of my maid of honor’s arm…
Be confident on your wedding day. Nobody needs to know that you actually hate your legs and are worried about that one zit on your face. I know that I knew it, but I didn’t need that to ruin my day. That was the one day in my life when I had on a big, white dress, cathedral length veil, sparkly shoes, false lashes, fancy jewelry, sparkly nail polish on my hands and feet all at the same time…and no one thought I was a crazy-princess-wannabe-gone-overboard. Instead, they told me that I looked nothing but beautiful.
And as a bonus, I’ll add one last thing:
If you’ve been resisting getting your hair cut to keep it long for your wedding, you’ll want to chop it off not long after your wedding is over. Like me!
I recently got a pixie.
Well, maybe that last bit was just me. But I couldn’t stand my long hair anymore.
So I’ll continue to share more photos and tidbits of my wedding. I still have lots to share! For example, as a preview…this was my guest seating “chart”:
Definitely something a bit unique!
Until next time, thanks for reading!